Two years ago, when I first started this blog, I wrote a piece about swimming in January. I described how I could lower myself into the pool, pull my goggles over my eyes, and start swimming laps. Before long, I would find myself in synch with the rhythmic motion of my arm strokes and the small waves my body would produce. A meditative feel would take over, and mentally I would find myself back in Hawai’i, where I used to swim throughout the winter in the ocean and at the University of Hawai’i’s outdoor Olympic sized swimming pool.
I remembered that blog the other night when at 7:50 p.m. I finally left my office and headed to the Saratoga YMCA. My hope had been to leave quite a bit earlier, but being the first day of classes and my first day back at teaching since a small sabbatical last fall, that didn’t quite work out. The outside temperature was hovering between about 3 degrees Fahrenheit and zero. A chill wind was blowing. My body ached from the cold and from sitting all day. It was so very tempting to call it a night and to head home. But then I thought of my imaginative Hawai’i, and my motivation perked. The pool was nearly empty, which felt marvelous in and of itself. The cool drafty breeze that seemed to pervade the locker room and the walkway to the pool area was replaced as soon as I entered with a warm steamy feel. It was like being in the tropics, almost.
I have developed a fondness for a brief soak in the whirlpool before diving into the pool. On this particular night, the water in the whirlpool was especially warm and seemed to thaw every cold ache that had besieged me. I couldn’t be happier. After a few minutes, I headed for the pool. I climbed into an empty lane and began swimming. Within a few strokes, I found my rhythm. For the first time in months, I swam a full 1,000 yards without interruption. I kept track of the laps by measuring them with breaths: every three strokes for the first 300 yards, every four strokes for 300 to 400 years, and then combinations of two, three, and four strokes up to 1,000. And, as I swam, I waited for the moment where I would meditatively be in Hawai’i. It never came.
What did this mean? A failure in the powers of imagination? A sign that Hawai’i no longer called to me as it once did? I would hope none of the above. I think it simply means that a fairly continual regime of moving one’s body eliminates the need for escape. It allows to feel satisfaction for life in the immediate moment.
Our world of social media erodes the walls of privacy that many people cherish, even as it puts us in touch with people all over the world — some of whose real names and real faces we never will know. Many of my friends and colleagues deal with this erosion of privacy by constructing imaginative images of themselves for their social media worlds. They have avatars for Second Life; special handles for Twitter; and profile photos on their Facebook page that are more representations than realistic images of themselves. I find this masking of self rather intriguing, because I don’t particularly indulge in it myself. In hip-hop circles, I am Himanee. On Twitter, I am hguptacarlson. On Facebook, my profile is a photo of one of my cats; sometimes it is an inanimate object like a gelly roll pen. Most often, it is a photo of myself.
“We need to get you an avatar,” one of my friends told me when she was trying to convince me to get involved with a space she had created in Second Life.
“I don’t want an avatar,” I protested. “Can’t I just go in as myself?”
Apparently, in Second Life, that’s not how it’s done.
The desire to just be myself didn’t always exist. I grew up in the Midwest in the 1960s with a hard-to-pronounce name. I felt embarrassed by the constant mispronunciations and the inability to come up with an easy shorthand, and vowed that as soon as I was able to, I would get my name legally changed. Around age seventeen, I decided that I would become H.G. Snow. The initials would preserve my name, and Snow was part of the meaning of my actual name. I decided that I would put it on a license plate as soon as I had a chance to do so.
That chance materialized in 1988. I had just moved to Seattle and was in line at the Department of Motor Vehicles to get Washington state plates for my newly purchased car, a white Honda Civic. The plates featured an image of a snowy laden Mt. Rainier. H.G. Snow seemed like the perfect complement. But I got to the front of the line and I couldn’t do it. This was the first car I had purchased myself. I wanted it to represent me. Not some fiction of me. I drove that car until 2004 when it died on the North Shore of O’ahu. I had just met the man who would propose to me five months later, and only then did I change my name, hyphenating it with my husband’s birth name at the end.
The years of my marriage have been marked by immense transformation. I have moved from Hawai’i to Seattle to New York. I have remade my body and my life — not through cosmetics or surgery — but through gradual changes in my diet, exercise, and prioritization of values. One could argue that the changes have created a new self. Or, perhaps, more accurately created a new space for the true self to emerge. I thought of this as I climbed out of the pool, feeling alert and awake and immensely satisfied with the swim I had just completed. I headed back to the whirlpool to heat my body for a few more minutes before heading out into the cold. I was no longer in Hawai’i — and I no longer needed to imagine myself there.
I will gladly accept a plane ticket for a visit, however.